Moldable Moments

May 28, 2013

What I learned from 56 holes of Putt Putt

  This week I played 56 holes of Putt Putt with my six-year old son. For you OCD people… yes I know we should have played 54, but we had playoffs. I lost by two strokes, I may have manipulated the score a little bit, but isn’t that what dad’s are supposed to do?   I learned a few valuable lessons half way up the […]
May 15, 2013

‘Did Baby Jesus Wear Diapers?’

When my niece Allie was 5, she frequently asked me imaginative questions about God. One day Allie arranged a pastoral ministry session for me. I waited on the front steps of her house while she gathered several of her friends. A study group gathered, and Allie announced, “My uncle is a preacher, and he can tell you what kinds of ice cream there will be […]
May 10, 2013

The Discipline Checkup

When our children were young, Barb and I quickly learned that parenting skills were not intuitive or inherited, so we sought mentors who could help us. Bill and Jane, a couple in our church, the parents of five wonderful daughters, agreed to share dinner with us once a month to discuss parenting issues. I remember the evening that Bill and Jane taught us about what […]
May 4, 2013

Why Children Need The Sabbath

My oldest son started high school this fall. At his orientation, the counselors spoke to parents about the greatest challenge they see students face in school. I expected to hear about poor study habits or substance abuse, but to my initial surprise, these were not at the top of the list. Apparently, the greatest challenge presenting itself in the office of the high school guidance […]
April 25, 2013

The Power of 5

This week, I am rocking it out to “dubstep” worship music at a ministry conference in Atlanta, Georgia. If you don’t know what dubstep is, you are either old, boring, or my own mother. (Just Kidding)  During this conference, we continue to review a statistic that came from two national surveys a few years back from Rethink and Lifeway. Those studies examined adults who stayed […]
April 13, 2013

The Mommy First Rule

Who do you kiss goodbye first when you leave your house each day? For children to understand love, they must understand they are loved by their parents and they are loved by God. Most parents inherently do a good job of loving their children. And many do a good job of explaining to their children that God loves them, but where I have seen many […]
April 3, 2013

Free Retreat for Pastors/Missionaries

Joshua Place Celebrates its First Anniversary!! (Cue spontaneous applause and wild jubilation) First of all, a hearty thank you for your stay at The Joshua Place last year. In so doing, you helped fulfill our mission, which is to provide a haven of rest and relaxation for Christian leaders and their families. We happily celebrated our first-year anniversary this January. In our inaugural year we […]
April 1, 2013

Five Steps to Breaking Social Porn Addiction

If you find that you have an addiction to social pornography, the next step is to deal with it. Here are five steps to try to break its addictive hold on your life. Pray that God will help you conquer your addiction. Ask people at home, work, or school to keep you accountable to not accessing as much social media. Set a limit in the […]
March 29, 2013

Three Steps to Discovering If You Are Addicted to Social Porn

Here are three ways to find out if you are addicted to social pornography. Ask close friends or family: This is usually a very quick way to find out. Ask them to be honest, and then ask them directly if they feel you have an addiction to social media. Ask co-workers: They will know if they interact with you consistently in the course of your […]
March 27, 2013

Are Christians Drowning in Social Pornography?

Are upwards of 70% of Christians drowning in a quagmire of social pornography? Hopefully, you agree that pornography is wrong and detrimental to the Christian walk with Christ.  But what about the millions of believers who are addicted to social pornography? In fact, social pornography is just as damaging to relationships as sexually-based pornography. According to statistics, 70% of Christian men struggle with pornography. Those […]
June 30, 2012

Long Distance Family Communication

The current technological age allows for real-time connections between grandparents and their grandchildren. The only requirement for instant communication is an Internet connection or a mobile phone.   My children talk to their grandparents using Face Time for Ipad and Iphone, and Skype on the computer.  It is easier than ever for grandparents to connect. I have a three-month-old baby at home and my parents […]
June 27, 2012

Circumcision of infants is now a crime in Germany.

  The religious freedom and rights of parents no longer trumps the rights of an infant.  Parents cannot choose to have their child circumcised for religious beliefs in Germany.  This parental choice may go against the adult wishes of the infant. Because the infant cannot decide for himself to be circumcised the German courts are now considering circumcision a crime against the infant.  This affects […]
June 21, 2012

Coolest kid at the pool!

I love going to the pool at the local YMCA. The cacophony of young voices screaming “Pastor Cyle,” “Pastor Cyle,” will always lift my spirits. It is enjoyable to see families spending time together laughing and playing.  The pool seems to force dads to play with their younger children as they learn how to swim. I watched a dad play pass in the pool with […]
June 15, 2012

Father’s Day Gift Ideas

Father’s Day is coming soon.  As a father…I want to share some tips to help make it the best Father’s Day ever for your family.  First you need to recognize how your father speaks love to you and the people around him. Does he say nice things to people all the time?  Is he always doing things for others to serve them or help them?  […]